Tag Archives: Long Distance Relationships

Turning the Page

Our lives all go in cycles, or for the literary minded, chapters.

Each chapter covers a section of our lives that we live and experience before we progress to the next chapter.

With the knowledge of the previous chapters under our belt, we seek to improve, grow and adapt to our ever changing lives.

A new chapter has just started in my life, and it’s one that I hope will see my life growing and blooming in lots of ways.

Around 20 months ago I met someone so special, that I wanted my next chapter to include her. It felt right, it felt comfortable and most importantly, it felt good.

That time was February 2007 and that special someone was of course LaLa.

These 20 months have gone fast. Although we lived 300kms apart for that time, we managed to see each other every 2 – 4 weeks and we’d have a great time. Although doing the long distance thing can be very trying at time, we managed it pretty well and kept the communication up. We even managed a few trips away here and there which definitely helped.

You may have noticed the past tense term in that paragraph.

That’s right people. Long Distance NO MORE. Last weekend, Canberra gained a new resident!

No more commuting up and down the Hume.

No more chatting on the phone before bed.

No more having no-one to spend time with at night.

No more moving from place to place and being undersettled.

For around 3 1/2 yrs I have been a wanderer. Including my time in Washington, I have lived in around 12 to 13 places.

NO MORE!

We have found a great little 3 beddy in Ainslie. I have now moved most of my stuff in. Moving house SUCKS ARSE by the way. I am sick of loading my car from all of the different places I had my stuff! I have nearly got it all, but it’s taking a while.

So, the new chapter begins, and here’s hoping that it’s a nice long one 🙂

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Friends FAQ

Friends are a big topic of thought and conversation lately.

I have discovered that the friends of mine and LaLa’s, and the way we interact with them is quite different.

I have always had a few really close good friends, then some that I’ll see now and then, and the others that I only see on certain special occasions.

I could put them into these sorts of categories (just for bloggings sake. I don’t actually do this)

Close Friends (that I see at least once a fortnight)

I’d say there would be 2 or 3 people that fit this category. These are people that I know I can always rely on if needed and they can rely on me the same way.

Close Friends that I communicate with often, but live interstate

These are friends that I have always been close to, but because of distance may only see once every few months or a few times a year. At least 2 friends fit into this category.

Friends that I have known for a long long time, but only see on certain occasions.

This is the case with a number of friends that I have known since high school. I know that when I see them I’ll have a good time, but neither of us really make special efforts to spend time with each other.

Friends that I haven’t known for that long, but i see regularly

This groups includes friends from work, of which I only have a couple that I see outside of the workplace, and then friends from sport and music pastimes. These usually aren’t the friends that I would go to when I need to talk, but are good for company and partying with.

The problem is, that there are times when I just find that I don’t have the mates around that I really want. Because of partners, work, their busy lives or mine, it just seems that there are times when I feel quite lonely in this town.

Luckily I have 2 sisters that I know I can always count on and it helps to be able to talk to them whenever, but they have their own busy lives as well.

It doesn’t help that my best friend and person I want to talk to the most in the world is 3 hours away. Even though we speak a few times a day, sometimes it just doesn’t feel like enough.

Yeah, I’m a sook, but hey, this Long Distance thing sucks arse.

But what I really wanted to know is how does all this compare to other people? How many friends do you have in the above categories? How much of an effort do you make to keep contact with them? Does anyone have Friends like the TV show? Is that even possible? Can we agree that Jennifer Aniston was the hottest Friend? Can we hope that they never do a re-union show? Although perhaps ‘Friends in Australia’ could be fun….

The thing that I think is important with my friends is that even though I may not see them all that often, it doesn’t really matter. Because most of them have been friends so long I know we can just pick it up from wherever we’ve left it in the past.

I think this is why i find it hard to make new close friends. I don’t have the time to be able to build that friendship up to a point where I feel we can be comfortable enough to not see each other all that often.

If that makes sense…

So, hey, if anyone is actually reading this blog and not just searching for Tits and Footy, then drop me a line…or 2.


Going The Distance…

Long Distance Relationships (LDR’s) are hard.

It’s been 9 months now, and although it has been going really REALLY well, I worry that it’s going to get harder.

It’s the little things that make it hard at the moment.

Like, not being able to just pop over and see the person that you know will make you feel better quickly, or not being able to use that free movie ticket you won with the person you want to see it with, or feeling empty, mopey and blue when you can’t just get a hug or a chat that you need.

I think we have done pretty damn well so far.

This is because we try not to sweat the small stuff.
We keep in regular contact every day.
We trust each other.
We make the effort to see each other as often as possible.

At the moment, that is about every 2 or 3 weeks, but I’ve gotta say that after 3 weeks I start going a bit batty and really really need to see her.

It’s this tugging, aching feeling in my gut that yearns for her.

It’s that same feeling that tells me that my other feelings are real.

So, how am I going to survive another 18 months of this?

The same way we have been I think.

Day at a time. Keep communicating. Give each other as much time as we can.

I just have to stop being so damn mopey about it.

I mope like a girl sometimes, and I know it doesn’t help anything. I guess some days are just harder than others.

There’s a few good sites on the net that describe how best to survive an LDR.

But, any suggestions out there?