Friends are a big topic of thought and conversation lately.
I have discovered that the friends of mine and LaLa’s, and the way we interact with them is quite different.
I have always had a few really close good friends, then some that I’ll see now and then, and the others that I only see on certain special occasions.
I could put them into these sorts of categories (just for bloggings sake. I don’t actually do this)
Close Friends (that I see at least once a fortnight)
I’d say there would be 2 or 3 people that fit this category. These are people that I know I can always rely on if needed and they can rely on me the same way.
Close Friends that I communicate with often, but live interstate
These are friends that I have always been close to, but because of distance may only see once every few months or a few times a year. At least 2 friends fit into this category.
Friends that I have known for a long long time, but only see on certain occasions.
This is the case with a number of friends that I have known since high school. I know that when I see them I’ll have a good time, but neither of us really make special efforts to spend time with each other.
Friends that I haven’t known for that long, but i see regularly
This groups includes friends from work, of which I only have a couple that I see outside of the workplace, and then friends from sport and music pastimes. These usually aren’t the friends that I would go to when I need to talk, but are good for company and partying with.
The problem is, that there are times when I just find that I don’t have the mates around that I really want. Because of partners, work, their busy lives or mine, it just seems that there are times when I feel quite lonely in this town.
Luckily I have 2 sisters that I know I can always count on and it helps to be able to talk to them whenever, but they have their own busy lives as well.
It doesn’t help that my best friend and person I want to talk to the most in the world is 3 hours away. Even though we speak a few times a day, sometimes it just doesn’t feel like enough.
Yeah, I’m a sook, but hey, this Long Distance thing sucks arse.
But what I really wanted to know is how does all this compare to other people? How many friends do you have in the above categories? How much of an effort do you make to keep contact with them? Does anyone have Friends like the TV show? Is that even possible? Can we agree that Jennifer Aniston was the hottest Friend? Can we hope that they never do a re-union show? Although perhaps ‘Friends in Australia’ could be fun….
The thing that I think is important with my friends is that even though I may not see them all that often, it doesn’t really matter. Because most of them have been friends so long I know we can just pick it up from wherever we’ve left it in the past.
I think this is why i find it hard to make new close friends. I don’t have the time to be able to build that friendship up to a point where I feel we can be comfortable enough to not see each other all that often.
If that makes sense…
So, hey, if anyone is actually reading this blog and not just searching for Tits and Footy, then drop me a line…or 2.